Today I’m going to just let you in on a barrage of thoughts that has been percolating in my head and it comes bursting out like a woman’s manifesto should.
What bothers me is…
The time spent asking for what we shouldn’t have to ask for. It is not the best use of our time. Simple things like wanting what’s EQUAL. Like the word says, we want equal opportunity, equal pay, and equal respect. We don’t need to do more, we already have to do more than our equal share of responsibilities. Because we also give birth, and are the primary caregivers and social directors of our families. Outsourcing isn’t an option for us.
Are we being punished?
To get men to acknowledge anything it takes a movement. Think about it. We needed women’s liberation to vote, to be able to buy a home on our own or open a bank account. We needed feminism to be more than the secretary carrying that outward sign of equal in the form of that ridiculous bow around our blouse. Now we need the #metoo movement to announce to the world that we are not flattered when men are sexually attracted to us and want to exploit that sometimes with threats, harassment or much worse. Why does it need a movement to explain the most logical thing in the world?
We are all equal
More women are graduating from college than men. Women score as good (and sometimes better) as men in math, science and (gasp) programming and code. If you really want to be logical why don’t you let the numbers and the data speak not your bias or your outdated perception?
The constant battle
No I don’t hate men, most of us love men, but let’s clear this is not about men, this is about women. What we want is not against you. Women have had 50 years to catch up on… like everything. Just how much time is the world allocating for us to find our place and get caught up with what’s been built for thousands of years by men? It continues to be a man’s world with men making most of the rules.
Asking for too much
Yeah, yeah, we heard you the first time. Why are women never satisfied? Why do they have to keep repeating these demands again and again? Isn’t it enough already? Why do you even want all of this? Ever demanding, unreasonable, and difficult – I suppose it must be very difficult to understand that our capabilities are like yours. And spare me the argument that we can’t be that smart because our brains are smaller. Mouth open and (another gasp) yes this guy made that comment on my YouTube channel. The numbers are not advancing they are slightly retreating. Passive aggressiveness isn’t helping. Only action and consistent force will turn this ship.
I am so tired of it
The other day a guy on LinkedIn draws me into a conversation about his secretary checking him out. I am being polite, decline the offer at looking at the offensive evidence and he sends me a crotch shot where he wears a pant a size to small with no lining showcasing not his best features. Asking me how to say in German big dick. You can’t make this stuff up. It happened this week. He didn’t want advice on how to not make his secretary uncomfortable, he gets off on it and he tried to pull me into a sexual conversation. Never mind on whether or not I am with someone, or possibly married, with kids, even after I said no, he did it anyway. It just never stops for women and some men are that stupid, infantile, provocative, slapstick bro-funny and just need to see what they can get away with. (Count your blessings I am not using that photo you send me with proper credit as the illustrative piece to this article, it can get you fired.)
The cheap route
Go pout angry white power hungry man if you must, if you are this threatened by your wife, daughter, sister, mother, and co-worker asking you to take us seriously. We’ve endured this humiliation of our intelligence and brilliance for so long, what’s another #mgtow movement to us? Nothing, please go ahead and self-satisfy your every need, at least you now know what all the services are you have to pay for in the real world when you don’t have a woman doing this for you. We are so not threatened by you we are at the spa enjoying a well deserved break.
Real men want us to be strong
A real man understands the wishes, desires and requests of his woman. He doesn’t cater to her need, he gets her. His masculinity is not threatened by her wanting to see where her crossroad of woman and capability is. He knows that we don’t want what he has. He knows that we prefer to create our own, want our our own leaders, hero’s, case studies, and recognition.
A real man cheers us on and tells us after we roared all day that we are still their Queen and they help us shift into that because it’s hard to have to be both. Figuring out how to remain feminine and soft and go out everyday to tell the world what we are made out of.
At her lowest point, Beate Chelette was $135,000 in debt, a single mother, and forced to leave her home. Only 18 months later, she sold her image licensing business to Bill Gates in a multimillion dollar deal. Chelette is a nationally known ‘gender decoder’ who has appeared in over 60 radio shows, respected speaker, career coach, consummate creative entrepreneur, and author of Happy Woman Happy World. Beate is also the founder of The Women’s Code, a unique guide to women leadership and personal and career success that offers a new code of conduct for today’s business, private, and digital worlds. Determined to build a community of women supporting each other, she took her life-changing formula documented it all in a book Brian Tracy calls “an amazing handbook for every woman who wants health, happiness, love and success!”
Through her corporate initiative “Why Acting Like a Girl Is Good For Business” she helps companies with gender diversification training, and to develop and retain women.
If you’d like to book Beate as a speaker on New Leadership Balance or Creative Entrepreneurship for your next event please connect with me.